Learn to control your temper

Control your beast within! Kathryn J. Raths, LLC photo

We all know someone or have ourselves been a hotheaded beast at one time or another. It is embarrassing to see someone ranting and raving in public; it shifts the energy badly. Whether you are having anger management issues or it is someone in your circle, being in this environment is harmful to all who succumb to the toxicity. It is no fun to have to walk on eggshells around others. This type of atmosphere isn’t nurturing. Instead, it stifles growth. It causes unnecessary stress resulting in headaches, digestive issues, and high blood pressure, just to name a few consequential ailments.

As a young adult, I’ve previously mentioned being very vocal and aggressive when I felt someone was taking advantage of me. Today, I’ve learned to pick my battles and work to stay on the high road by better managing my emotional dysregulation. It is not worth the grief, but this doesn’t mean we should allow others to walk over us and sacrifice our morals.

There is a difference between being assertive (respectfully disagreeing) and being aggressive by hurting others with wrath. I like to think that I behave assertively and with heart. I do not let others take advantage of me. Still, when conflict arises, and I know I must address it, I keep my interface purposefully direct but convey my feelings without being confrontational. It is possible to speak your mind without throwing others under the bus. When you can project yourself into the other person’s shoes to understand their perspective, it makes you more compassionate and helps find an amenable solution.

The key is that we must be able to reason in these challenging situations; when we can logically process the interface, we are controlling our tempers by allowing our minds to seek solutions instead of succumbing to our emotions. It is possible to change; you just have to want to be healthier!

How badly do you want to change and control your temper outbursts? What are you doing to channel the anger? Let’s talk about it, leave me a note.