Sexual Assault Advocacy

Kathryn J. Raths, LLC photo- Our neighborhoods should protect us. 

As I sit and write this blog tonight, I am working on-call as a volunteer in Washtenaw County to support domestic violence and sexual assault survivors who may come forward over the next 12 hours. In Washtenaw County, if a person goes to the hospital and communicates that he or she has been assaulted, the state requires the hospital to call the police and an advocate to support the survivor. Advocates like myself provide an empathetic heart by going to the hospital, regardless of the time of night, to be at the survivor’s side, to talk with them to help process feelings, inform them of their legal rights and the process, and ultimately, to help with safety planning. Most importantly, an advocate is there to assure the survivor it is not their fault and to listen empathetically. No one deserves to be assaulted regardless of their situation (the what, when, where, or why). 

As a support person to someone sexually assaulted, it is important not to ask “why questions.” These types of questions, like, “Why were you there at that hour?” or “Why did you go alone?” only insinuate blame and, instead, this person needs support without victim-blaming.

It is helpful to encourage self-care and professional help so your friend or family member can begin the difficult trauma work, which is a long road, but through it, they can eventually move out of the victimization and instead become a triumphant survivor.

The number (800) 656-4673 is for the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline, and this organization can provide local contact information where you or your loved one can seek help.

Let’s stand together and strengthen our communities by arming ourselves with the facts of sexual assault; united, we can make the world a safer place and shine light into such darkness!