Showing posts with label overcoming. Show all posts
Showing posts with label overcoming. Show all posts

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Good Friday remembrance, continued...


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I have come to believe that anyone who leads life honoring a higher power benefits from this major shift in spirit. For me, Good Friday is a great reminder of this. There is something empowering about an intangible faith that is fueled from light that burns within. It is mysterious and very real to me.

In the counseling world we realize the power of faith and how it energizes an installation of hope. Without hope life is not worth living. Without hope the view of life is drained; it’s painful and dark. Without hope we just give up.

When we are able to fuel the spirit in our lives we are able to overcome. Faith gifts perseverance. For me, faith feels like the breath of God; we can’t see it but when recognized and felt intuitively, its presence is celestial and uplifting. 

This is all crucial to healthy living and an underlying gift/reminder connected to Good Friday. Hopefully my article was not too religious for you but perhaps it gently nudged you to find a way to honor whoever or whatever ignites the light that burns within you.

Today, I not only honor this higher power but I also pay remembrance to GabeVaccaro, whom I mention in the article. I am grateful that I have gotten the opportunity to know him; his was a vibrant man whose memory will live on within the hearts of all who know him. I was honored to have been able to interview him in my Examiner column. If you’d like to learn a bit about Gabe, click here.


May you all have a blessed holiday weekend and a happy Easter!

Sunday, February 15, 2015

The good life, continued...


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I am currently in a Case Conceptualization class in my Mental Health Counseling program, which requires us to learn about the different schools of thought. I am a fan of Carl Rogers and his person-centered approach. It doesn’t involve a lot of tools and it is based on authenticity and the belief in human goodness. In this theory it is not about the counselor agreeing with the client because this is not recommended but it is more about the counselor playing a role in the experience of the client; in the sidelines but offering empowering questioning (in a sense more navigational subtle guidance) that enables self-discovery. The premise acknowledges that life comes with problems and sometimes people do make bad choices but through nonjudgmental support and a nurturing environment we can come to accept accountability and learn from our mistakes.  A lot of the discussion focuses on what is right in a person’s life to help reframe a negative mindset to a more positive one in order to manifest a trend of health or the good life.

I love the quote I used by Carl in the article, the good life isn’t a destination, it is a process or trending realm instead of what we most think about it being, more of a destination.


Are you living the good life? Can you answer the questions posed in the article? What are your thoughts about Person-centered therapy? Does it sound like something you think might be helpful to you? I’m curious!

Sunday, December 14, 2014

5 years fully recovered, continued...


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Kimberly Spencer continued the interview.

In her words, “Addressing the issue with my parents was one of the hardest confessions I have ever had to make. Living with an eating disorder as a teenager can feel seductive because you have a secret. You feel rebellious. Destroying that facade by talking about the fact that you have a problem is HUGE. When I was sixteen, I finally told my parents I was bulimic and I needed help. I started talking about it with friends too. My parents and my friends surrounded me with love and support and helped give me the strength to take one day at a time and be kind to my body.

Especially, though, my belief that God put me here for a reason, allowed me to see beyond the momentary pain or issue. Prayer was a huge part in my recovery. Belief in God gave me the ability to see the meta picture, which allowed me to zoom back into the moment to see if my decision to purge or overstuff myself in that moment would really serve my greater purpose, or my greater good. Living trapped in my insecurities and is not living my purpose, nor is it helping anyone else, especially not myself.
My relationship with God helped give me greater perspective."

She shared how she will use social media to reach more people with her healing message.

“In January 2015, I will be launching a new YouTube Channel, The Morning Stretch, giving you a heaping serving of Monday motivation to help you kick your week into healthy, happy, high gear, with health, fitness, nutrition, and productivity tips. Also, coming out in January, I will be in my Queen of the Universe Pageant sister, Miss Venezuela, Gia Fey's fitness video series: Curvy Girls Bootcamp.

In late 2015, I will be releasing my first book, Crown Yourself with Confidence, about how you can love your body more and increase your confidence, using the lessons I learned from my years in pageants. 

For more information about these, sign up for updates on http://www.fitnesswithkim.com.”

Her advice for parents of kids who are overweight, “A child's body changes so much from infant to child. Keep this in mind when you first have concerns about your child’s weight. Since kid’s bodies are constantly growing and re-shaping themselves as they grow into teens and adults, sometimes it takes their bodies a little time to keep up with their appetites. 

When dealing with any weight issues with children, address them with kindness and live by example. Encourage healthy, organic, food choices, but don't be too strict with making sure they eat healthy. Show them by example how eating healthier, and choosing smarter food options like fresh fruits and veggies, gives you more energy, rather than the processed food options. However, allow them to indulge in the occasional junk food just like you allow yourself to indulge as well. 

Kids are parrots. They mimic what they see because that's the only way they know how to do something is by watching what and how their parents, friends, and teachers are doing things. This includes eating patterns. I didn't realize until much later that my parent’s emotional eating patterns and addictive food issues helped contribute to my bizarre eating habits as a child and this eventually shaped my bulimia battle.” 

Her closing words, “The best advice I ever received, that applies to everything, from your relationship with your body to your relationship with your work, your colleges, friends, and family: 'Be Kind to Yourself.' (You can thank my mom for that one.)”


To interface with Kimberly, “You can sign up for weekly health and fitness tips through Fitness with Kim (http://www.fitnesswithkim.com). If you want to join the movement to stop youth eating disorders and provide positive body image solutions, sign up at Dying to Be Thin (http://www.dyingtobethin.org) for updates as well. 


And, stay tuned for The Morning Stretch coming in January 2015 on Youtube!”

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Problems, continued...

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The website DBTselfHelp.com offers this list of Cognitive Distortions:
“All Or Nothing Thinking, Over Generalization [your life is over kind of mentality], Mental Filter [focusing on 1 negative aspect only], Disqualifying the Positive, Jumping to Conclusions Mind Reading [assumptions about others that may be false], The Fortuneteller Error [assuming that the outcome is always bad], Magnification/Minimization, Emotional Reasoning (I feel it therefor it must be true), Should Statements [living with regrets, I should of or could of state of mind], [and] Judging.”

It is important when you face the challenges in your life in order to start on an equal playing field and this is not happening if your beliefs/practices are self-sabotaging because of cognitive distortions.

When we are in the midst of emotions it can be easy to associate one event with another, many times it is what children do when parents get divorced. It doesn’t matter if they’ve heard their parents argue daily, once the marriage splits, the kids will many times blame themselves. “If I could have been a perfect child, mom and dad would have stayed together; it’s all my fault.” This is an example of a cognitive distortion.

We have to challenge our thoughts and emotions in order to check their validity otherwise we will live life miserably if we allow the critical voice in our heads to run the show!


What are your thoughts about problems solving? Do you have any tips you can share?