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I co-facilitated a recent group therapy session when
another facilitator talked about the difficulty for clients to “say their story
out loud” because it seems to bring it to life all over again. But, the reality is that bringing something to life that has been suppressed or repressed is actually a
good thing, and this share of the story will help breathe energy back into your life. We all must tell our story to fully understand and accept it. It offers growth.
Once you can talk about it, of course, then you must work
with a therapist to process the experience, whatever it is that you've tried to disown or ignore. What does this mean? Just as the
counselor can help clean the slate to soothe the pain of sharing the burden, he
or she will help dig beneath the experience at its core to feel and
free its hold. This is hard work because it now involves you processing and questioning
the feelings manifested surrounding the experience. It is an emotional process, but once you have bonded with the counselor, a safe place in this relationship is established, and this helps to enable you to tap into and own your vulnerability.
If you have a trusted friend or loved one, you can lean
on this support to do the work. But, if you feel your world is at a loss
currently, it is important to reach out for professional help.
With support, you can move beyond your past or whatever is draining you in the present to embrace a healthier you in the here and now.
I am sure of this!
I may sound like a broken record as I spew about the
benefits of mindful living and a good support system, but I believe in this. What about you?
