Friday, April 12, 2013

Overcome your fear, continued...


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It seems like recent circumstances in my life have forced some discomfort because I’ve had to go outside my comfort zone. Between business legal issues, financial constraints, weekly presentations at school, new teaching challenges and workshops and anxieties surrounding the teens in my life, I found it relevant to understand exposure therapy. I am in the trenches and coping. I must admit, it is getting a bit easier although this result is because of the demand pulling me through and me stepping up in survival mode as apposed to me controlling the situation. 
This inspired the article. I’m in awe as to what we can actually handle when life shifts. We would never choose these obstacles but the survival mechanism kicks in and some how; we’re better for it in the end.
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Thursday, April 11, 2013

Feminist therapy



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Quizlet.com provides the following slide show presentation on Feminist therapy techniques:

“Group work
used for consciousness-raising & support, providing an avenue for women to share their experiences of oppression and powerlessness. Creates of sense of empowerment, decrease feelings of isolation, explore messages that may have been internalized about self worth.

Reframing
includes a shift from "blaming the victim" to a consideration of social factors in the environment that contribute to a client's problem. *rather than dwelling on intrapsychic factors, the focus is on examining societal or political dimensions. ex) susan may come to understand that her depression is linked to social pressures to have the ideal body rather than stemming from some deficiency within.

Relabeling
an intervention that changes the label or evaluation applied to some behavioral characteristic. ex)susan is encouraged to talk about herself as a strong and healthy women then being unattractive/inadequate because she is not thin.

Assertiveness Training
teaching/promoting assertive behavior, women become aware of their interpersonal rights, transcend stereotypical gender roles, change negative beliefs, and implement changes in their daily lives.
*increase own power, affecting the depression, susan learns that it is her right to ask for what she wants and needs.
*Therapist helps susan evaluate & anticipate the consequences of behaving assertively, which might range from criticism to actually getting what she wants.

Power Analysis
refers to the range of methods aimed at helping clients understand how unequal access to power and resources can influence personal realities. Together therapists and clients explore how inequities or institutional barriers often limit self-definition and well-being.
*helps susan identify alternate kinds of power she may exercise and to challenge the gender-role messages that prohibit the exercise of that kind of power.
*interventions are aimed at helping susan learn to appreciate herself as she is, regain her self-confidence based on the personality attributes she possesses, and set goals that will be fulfilling to her and do not depend on whether she "finds a man".

Gender-Role Intervention
therapist responds to susan's concern by placing it in the context of society's role expectations for women.
*aim is to provide susan w/insight into the ways that social issues are affecting her.
Therapist responds with what our society focuses on and what's on the media (being thin) i.e.. many girls are dieting in schools//this gives insight to how these expectations have affected her psychological condition and have contributed to her feeling depressed.
might pave the path for her to think more positively and may also contribute as a role model for young girls.
Gender-Role Analysis
hallmark of F. therapy, explores the impact of expectations on client's psychological well-being & draws upon this info to make decisions about future behaviors.
*intervention serves both the function of assessment & promotion of client change
*begins w/ clients identify the societal messages they received about how women & men should be & act.
-The therapist begins by asking susan to identify messages that she received related to weight/appearance from society,peers, media & family.
-The therapist talks about how body image expectations differ btw female & males in our culture/various other cultures.
*susan decides what messages to keep and others to have open awareness when the discounting messages play in her head.

Self-Disclosure
used to equalize the client-therapist relationship, to provide modeling, to normalize women's collective experiences, to empower clients, & to establish informed consent.
-Therapist use this in the best interests of the client, by considering timing & nature.
-helps to decrease power differentials, useful for supporting clients, & can be liberating/empowering for clients.
*Also involves a certain quality of presence the therapist brings to the therapeutic sessions.

Empowerment
heart of feminist strategies
-Therapist will pay attention to informed consent issues, discussing ways susan can get the most from therapy, clarifying expectations, identifying goals, & working toward a contract that will guide the therapeutic process.
*by explaining how therapy works & enlisting susan as an active partner, the process is demystified and susan becomes an equal participant.
*client will learn that she is charge of direction, length, & procedures in her therapy.”

Perhaps by reading a bit about these feminist therapeutic techniques, you can better serve yourself and your community. What are your thoughts?





Sunday, April 7, 2013

I was bullied, continued...



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Tim Hutchinson continued the interview by describing the bullying he endured.

In his words, “The bullying began in middle school and carried over well into high school. For so long I'd wanted to fit in and be a part of the in-crowd. But my clothes weren't nice enough, I wasn't an athlete and I certainly didn't come from the right neighborhood. To make matters worse, I was short and rather skinny. That made me an easy target for bullies who preyed on me like vultures do on an easy meal in the desert. None of the on-lookers came to my rescue and I felt totally alone and completely worthless, daily. Every act of meanness by the bullies took its toll. Each hit, slap, kick, being shoved in lockers down the stairs reinforced my belief that I was literally trapped in a school where it was my role to be humiliated for the enjoyment of others. The inner turmoil was also a regular battle within myself; their insistence that I was worthless conflicted with my belief that I was something better than a punching bag. When my belief became strong enough, I felt the only choice available to me to escape the strong hold the bullies had on my life was to attack. To ensure there were be no retaliation on their part meant I would have to use deadly force.”

I asked, “Did you go to anyone for help before you took matters into your own hands?”

Tim responded, “I never felt as though anyone really cared enough about me that I could confide something so personal and hurtful to them. I was abused and unloved at home, and bullied at school. I truly felt trapped, alone, and scared.”

Tim talked about the impact, “Many times students who have been bullied believe they must simply survive high school, after which time the pain will just go away. I'm living proof that's not so, the pain continues after graduation (or in my case; dropping out) and permeates through every area of life. After spending more than a decade running from the experience of being bullied, I finally saw that it was like a contest of sorts, like hide-n-seek, that I would ultimately lose at every time. Finally, I faced the reality of what happened and accepted that no matter if I was bullied or not, it does not have to determine my true worth as a person. I began focusing on the good things I'd done with my life and the positive impact I could have on others. Through that the negative impact of being both abused and bullied slowly eroded away and was replaced by a sense of wellbeing, happiness and belonging.”

His advice for someone being bullied, “As a speaker at school across the U.S. on preventing bullying, I am often asked what students can do to stop the bullying. There are actually a lot of things students are able to do, and the number one action step is to report the bullying to a trusted adult. Nearly 85% of the time someone is bullied, it goes unreported. When the bullies get away with bullying others they are more likely to continue. Coming in a close second is for bystanders to get involved. I teach students exactly what to do when confronted by a bully or see bullying happen. I've written all that advice in a free report titled Bully Proof which readers can download from my website, www.TheBullyDoctor.org. It details all the techniques schools pay me thousands of dollars a day to teach their students. Did I mention it's free? For real.”

He attributes his life triumph to his mentor.

Tim shared, “When my mentor first offered to help me I have to admit that there was a certain amount of skepticism. But in time he showed me his sincerity and as I relaxed and accepted his help, my life started to make more sense and ultimately improved. At the same time, I met my future wife, and she saw the good in me when I didn't see it myself. For that I am eternally grateful to her. I only wish every troubled young person could have a mentor in their lives, and learn the same valuable lessons I did.”

His spirit shifted, “Being loved, accepted, and mentored helped me go from Tornado Tim (as I was once called because everywhere I went I left behind a trail of destruction) to a law-abiding family man who cherishes his wife and kids more than any cheap thrill out on the street. Having options in my life that I've never had before really make me appreciate my life now. No longer do I live in fear of being bullied, put-down, or being harassed; nor do I have to hide my emotions. I can laugh, sing, dance, work, experience love, happiness, peace, contentment and be proud of my accomplishments - all without concern of others judging me. Sometimes I look back on my earlier life and ask myself, ‘Who was that guy? I am so glad he's gone!’

I once thought that attacking my high school would have been the greatest day in my life. I was wrong. It would have only destroyed many lives and prevented me from realizing a truly wonderful life; one filled with real hope, peace and joy that I now share with others. My goal is to reach out and send a positive message and real hope to those who experience bullying in their lives, and especially anyone considering another shooting like Columbine, Virginia Tech, Aurora theater, or Sandy Hook.”

His closing words, “Somewhere along the way we've told ourselves that bullies are just bad people who should be looked down upon, scolded or punished. My dealings with them have shown that by approaching them as a person with a curable illness we can reach them more effectively. In order to change them we must first reach them, right where they are currently, with compassion, understanding and a true desire to be helpful. Only then can we lead them to wherever their potential is, which certainly lies beyond the realm of bullying.”

Email him, “I welcome all questions / comments, and can be reached through my website TheBullyDoctor.org, and / or by emailing BullyHelp@TheBullyDoctor.org.”


Saturday, April 6, 2013

Existential therapy, continued...


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I have been flooded with texts books on theorist in my first 2 semesters of Graduate School. Of course, this makes sense considering my Masters will be in Mental Health Counseling. And, as I study each, I, in most cases, can relate to something offered by each. Like, if you look a Freud, I’m not sure I believe that most everything stems from sexual impulse developed before the age of 6 but I do like some of his techniques such as free association and dream interpretation to dive into the unconscious.

So far, Existential therapy is most relatable to me and I thought it worthwhile to share with you.

What are your thoughts?

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Life in continuum, continued...


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Yes, I can answer the question, "When it rains it does pour!" And, I've been in the eye of the storm as of late. From losing my credit card, to legal business issues with suppliers, I've been overwhelmed with hardship! I am past the initial shock stage and I'm finding my into a more peaceful month. April and spring came just in time for me. I'm embracing a new energy while accepting my situation to enable growth.

Court is not something easy to embrace but I have realized that so long as I am ethical and staying the course, all will work out and I can put the challenge behind me. I have learned a great deal in business law over the past few weeks. Stuff I really would not want to have learned but regardless I feel more educated in this process today. Time will tell but I feel I have found my way out of the storm in I'm slowly rising out of the valley. It is nice to have hope again!

Where are you today? Are you in a valley or on a mountain peak? Tell me about it.