Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Monday, February 16, 2015

Honoring our parents, continued...


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It seems to me like many people reside in extremes degrees of adult Parent relationships, on one end adult children are living with parents and these parents are practically raising their grandchildren or their parents are not included in their adult lives or minimally when they need something. I believe family connection that honors or nurturers our roots or those who have helped us get here, is beneficial to all involved. It is a bond that grows and strengthens with age.

The Huffington Post offers these statistics and insights, “

“With single parenting on the rise, more and more grandparents are stepping up to help their adult children raise kids, a report released Tuesday found. The research, conducted by US 2010, a research project on changes in American society funded by Brown University and the Russell Sage Foundation, corroborates a recent study by the Pew Research Center that showed that 7.7 million U.S. children -- one in 10 -- were living in the same household as one of their grandparents in 2011. In most cases, that meant living in their grandparent's home.
So why are so many seniors playing such pivotal roles in raising their grandkids? In an interview with the Washington Post, Amy Goyer, AARP’s expert on multigenerational and family issues, cited the 2007 recession as one the biggest reasons for the uptick in multigenerational households. ‘Grandparents have always been a safety net,’ she said, adding that nearly 20 percent of grandparents with grandchildren in the house are living below the poverty line. The study concluded that almost one-third of grandmothers who live with their grandchildren are the primary caregivers. Black and Hispanic grandmothers are more likely than white grandmothers to live with grandchildren and black grandmothers are more likely than Hispanic grandmothers to be the primary caregivers, the report found.”

Why are grandparents involved? Because they care about their loved ones and they want to help even if they are unable to afford it. Or, maybe they regret not being able to give you a better upbringing so they are trying to make a different by helping you and their grandchildren. Whatever the reason, it needs to be honored.


If you are not actively visiting and helping your parents in your adult life, I challenge you to pick up the phone and make the effort; a little bit will go a long way. If you don't believe me, talk to an adult who has lost his or her parents and get their perspective. Most would do anything to talk to their deceased parents again.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Diagnosed with Autism, continued...

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Examiner article


I love to see a Mom who is 100% vested into her family and to see how this investment reaps the ultimate reward; contributing healthy children who become successful adults! When I asked her about what she is most proud of, she got emotional. Her response, “This always makes me cry. I am proud of my family. I am proud of Michael in the work he is willing to put forward to understand his surroundings as well as us. I am proud of the effort that we have all put in to our family as a whole. As far as I am concerned, it is not just about Michael, it’s about every member of our family. We can now say, 17 years later, we have raised and continue to raise great kids. Challenges aside, which we have had many, I always look forward to what is coming with pride and confidence.”

They are successful in embracing each other and teaching and learning from one another. ANCA has helped them achieve healthy living; This community is truly heaven sent!

Can you recommend any organizations that are helping you? If so, send me a note. I love to learn about new programs that help our communities.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Family can be anyone you love and accept into your circle

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Examiner article

As I interview survivors for my Examiner column and inquire about where they obtained their strength from that enabled them to persevere through such adversity, I receive a common response, "From my family and friends." This circle of love is critical not only to your success but for basic survival. You may be able to accomplish a lot on your own, as an individual, but when hardship sets in, it is necessary to reach out and to lean on others for help.

I believe today normal represents more of a blended or single parent family than the traditional "Leave It To Beaver" white picket fence type. I haven't looked at the stats recently but just within my network, the scale has turned. It really doesn't matter who has what label or if there are 2 parents, it would be great if that were the case but regardless the priority should be about a healthy environment that promotes safety, love, loyalty and honesty. Building a foundation that encompasses these four aspects will enable everyone to be happy and healthy as the individuals they are intended to be!

What are your feelings about family, can you share them with me?

Sunday, March 14, 2010

She shared memories of her own daughter, continued...

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Examiner

Naomi Cole is my brother's mother in law and a family friend. They moved into our neighborhood when we were growing up. She is a remarkable and loving person. I can't even imagine losing a child, as she said, "A parent shouldn't have to lose a child!" It's clear she embraced change and the spirit of survival which gifted her with strength and motivation to move on.

Her advice to others going through this life-altering loss, "Focus on something that will make it better for your family here, take it day by day; it helps you get through the sorrow. It makes you feel better to know your trying to help someone else. It doesn’t happen over night!"

Today, I'm grateful for the friendship she has with my mom. They are both bereaving the loss of their husbands and can better understand each other's sadness. Everyone needs loved ones and friends to help get through times of sorrow. If you don't have someone in your immediate physical life, you can find help in our virtual communities on line also, have you found your support?

Monday, November 2, 2009

Circle of Love

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Circle of Love

I feel extremely lucky to have such a wonderful support system in my life. I do not consider myself a “needy” or “high maintenance” person and maybe this is why I have people who will swoop in to help me in my time of need. I try really hard to give back to my community and help others when possible; this might be why others are willing to help me too. I also believe in karma and perhaps the good energy I give out as an adult, loops back in gifting me with some of this love! Whatever the reason, I feel blessed even when challenge surfaces. This is the article I posted in 2009 before Examine closed its online doors and pulled my content.


Circle of Love

Regardless of how strong or weak you feel, when you are confronted by a life crisis support is critical for overcoming your challenge. Many of us lean on our family and friends or perhaps a professional counselor or psychologist to seek aid during a crisis. This informal “circle of love” is part of our survival. It validates our existence and brings companionship to the isolation triggered by the problem. 

What if someone isn’t fortunate enough to have a circle of love in their life? Healthy support can be found within your surroundings.  You must recognize the need for it and be conscientious of the help lines available to enable your support. Depending on the dilemma, something as simple as sharing a few moments with your pet can offer soothing, unconditional and non-judgmental love. If you have spiritual beliefs, prayer can calm anxieties and your church can offer words of encouragement. A medical outlet might help facilitate a path to your solution or your starting place might begin with a local resource such as Washtenaw County’s United Way 211 call center. Regardless if you have basic needs, require physical or mental support or you looking for financial assistance, simply call (734) 477-6211 or 211 (from a cell phone) for a list of local options. This state certified call center devotes its time and efforts towards finding resources for life's predicaments.    

Next time you feel like life is turning upside down and you realize you’re not functioning at your best, reach out to find support and utilize or create your circle of love!

Click here to learn how to build a personal support system.